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One issue of great interest in marriage is s#x. As I wrote in one of my books, ‘Enjoying Great Sex Life’, sex is the only thing that cannot be delegated by a spouse. Cooking, housekeeping, etc. can be contracted out.
But, s#x for the contract is a
no-go area. You have to do it yourself, with your spouse. It is also one of the
reasons for marriage contracts and also a prominent reason for divorce these
days. So, it has to be given the best attention.
This requires making one
available, as much as possible, as one’s health can allow. Not only that, it
must also be engaged in for maximum mutual enjoyment of the couple.
Furthermore, it must also be engaged in by the couples freely, without any
reservations of place and location, as long as privacy is guaranteed.
Over the years, I have always
counselled couples to enjoy a great s#x life just for the fun of it. However,
recent personal discovery about the health of a couple has driven my curiosity
more about regular sex for married couples.
This is in the area of mental
health for the wife, and prostrate health for the husband. Just yesterday, I
concluded that I will be going all out to campaign vigorously for married
couples to have regular s#x for the sake of their health. I believe strongly
that if a couple will live long, sex must be as regular as much as possible.
For the wife, sex impacts
greatly on her mental health. When you see a woman suffering from irregular
s#x, she gets touchy, irritant and uncooperative with her husband. It will also
definitely affect her emotional intelligence, which is another issue I intend
to address soon about marriage, in this column.
From the angle of the husband,
the issue of prostrate health demands that s#x for the married must be made
regular. I was thinking about the fact that irregular s#x could have been
sending many husbands to their early graves through prostate enlargement and
prostate cancer. I never absolutely believed that one of the causes of prostate
enlargement is irregular s#x. I used to think it was just a gimmick by men to
get more s#x from their wives for their husbands.
But, yesterday I changed my
mind when I saw a close one diagnosed with prostate enlargement. I became
curious and I went on to Google for the possible causes of prostate enlargement
− life and direct, I read that irregular sex is one of the culprits for
prostate enlargement.
Then, I went wild thinking
about the many deaths of husbands. I concluded that many wives could have
contributed to the early death of their husbands by not allowing them enough
access to s#x.
So, I decided to challenge
wives through this column to repent and be converted, so that our husbands can
live long and healthy enough for us and our children.
No matter what, we must not
have s#x with holding a judgment for the sins of our spouses, be it husbands or
wives. Let us not quarrel to the point of denying ourselves of s#x. After all,
my people in Yoruba land, say, quarrelling should not lead to death (bi a ba n
ja, bi ti ki a ku ko). Let us spare ourselves of deaths in our family by making
sex as free as air in our marriage.
I will be considering how to
have regular s#x in marriage as a follow-up to this write-up.
You can avail yourself of
copies of my books ‘Enjoying great s#x life’ and ‘How to help your wife enjoy
s#x’. Please contact 08112658560 for details.
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