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Timothy Uchenna Ifedioranma scored the winning goal that gifted Trinity College, Olodi Apapa, Lagos, her first soccer victory in the secondary football championship.

Young Ifedioranma’s lone strike broke the dominance of St. Gregory College, Obalende in the 1989 Principal Cup. Trinity College was the only school to have ever beaten St. Gregory College in the finals, which has a reputation for not losing to any school in the finals.

Ifedioranma was a skillful player that mercurial Jay Jay Okocha once picked the balls while Ifedioranma played and practiced with Emma Okocha, Jay Jay's elder brother back in the day. Winning the Principal Cup earned young Ifedioranma a flood of gifts from his school and attracted interest from Stationery Store FC and Wema Bank FC. He opted for Wema Bank because they offered something better, though Stationery Stores has a big name. A skillful footballer, good in midfield and attack, hardly a match that he plays without scoring a goal.

Today, Hon. Ifedioranma, Member representing Njikoka 1 Constituency at the Anambra State House of Assembly and House Committee Chairman on Works is legislating for the good of Anambra State and contributing to the advancement of Nigeria's democratic process.

At a point, he would have become a Rev. Father, but his father wanted young Ifedioranma, his only son to pursue a different course in life. He is also a clergy besides his legislative duties. Young Ifedioranma, for his father pampering his father, which his mother, a school headmistress saw could affect the future of her son was the reason she desired the younger Ifedioranma lives with someone else who could counter her husband’s over pampering of their son.

This happened at the time that Rev Father Moore, an Irish priest took interest in Tim, and he invited Tim to come and live with him. That encounter with Father Moore thrust young Tim into a new world, where his life was transformed morally and spiritually. The influence rubs off on him to date. He attributes Father Moore as one of those that influenced his life.         

Growing Tim was a left-handed person. So left-handed that the moment, that whenever he threw something at someone it must hit the person, even when the person or object is far from him that people call him evil left hand. But his parents saw everything in their son being left-handed which enforced a change to the right hand. 

“Very bad left-handed that I used it to eat and do everything then. Due to how bad it was my parents had to tie my left hand to my body. I go to school with one hand to recondition my mind to using my right hand. That was how I started using my right hand. I didn't find it easy then but getting to a year, I adjusted. Today, I can write with my right hand but can no longer write with my left hand very well. The only thing is that when I need to apply my hand to something heavy you will still notice that my left-hand carry more of the weight. To date, if there is something heavy my power comes from my left hand.”

Hon. Tim recalls nostalgically a certain day as he prepared for school and usually, he took tea with bread. But on this occasion, as his mother prepared the tea they ran out of milk and his mother sent one of their houses to help to go buy milk, “Growing up as a kid my parents were not rich in that strict sense, there was this particular morning,  we ran out of milk. The house help took so much time and my friends were at my house so that we could move to the school together and I was already running late.

“I drank the tea without the milk and bread and told my mother to keep my milk so that when I come back from school I will drink the milk so that the milk will go and meet the tea; it was so funny that each time I remember it makes me laugh. But I was honest and sincere but each time I remember it makes me laugh. Due to the fact that we take tea and milk at the same time even if I didn't take the tea with the milk at the same time, I thought anytime I take the milk it will go and meet the tea.”

Young Timothy had his father as his favourite but I now realised that his mother was the heroine, “she was the one bringing out the discipline that remoulded and really helped to reshape me. Because it was not for my mom who was a disciplinarian at the time. My father wasn't an educator but was literate, he stopped at Standard Six, but my mother bypassed that because she was a teacher. She loved education. I got hooked on loving education from my mother. She would always talk about books, and she would always make my siblings, and I read books even if you don't want to read. She took the time to look at my books not only mine but also that of my siblings and make corrections. “

“I remember in my primary school I came first or second. When I got class one in secondary school I came eight. My mother gave me the beating of my life. I was crying my friends came around and asked why I was crying and I told them that my mother wasn't pleased with my grades.  My friends came 21 or 30 something in the class. As kids that we were, they tried to make me see that my mom hates me and all that. 

“At a point, I started to want to believe that which was one of the reasons that I want to bring quarrel between my parents. My father never bullied my mother for anything but any time that my mother touched me my father wasn’t comfortable with it. That was why my mother insisted that I must leave the house. That was why I was allowed to stay with Rev Fr Moore.”

The Nawfia, Njikoka LGA-born legislator had his Primary school education at Elizabeth Fowler Memorial School, Surulere. He pursued his secondary education at Trinity College, Olodi Apapa, Lagos. He proceeded to the University of Lagos, where he earned a bachelor's degree in Public Administration. Though he wanted law, he wasn’t offered a place. “The next course I like is pub admin. I was looking for skills in administration. I don’t want to go the business line by doing business admin. Besides a lot of females are into business admin the reason I chose pub admin.”

He did his youth service in Jos, Plateau State. Shortly, he left for Europe for greener pastures and relocated to the United States where he studied to be a realtor. Hon Ifedioranma is a lover of education; he has a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology. As a parliamentarian in 2015, he did a degree course in political science at the Nnamdi Azikwe University UNIZIK. He went back to go and study the course that has been at his heart. He studied law at Chukwuemeka Odumegwu Ojukwu University. 

Supposing Hon Ifedioranma wasn't legislating today, what will you be doing?  He answered thus, “When I lived in the United States I was a realtor - what you call the estate developer and manager in Nigeria. Unlike in Nigeria, in the United States, you study to take exams to be certified as a realtor. That was what I was doing at the time and I was in the money. If I weren't in the legislature that’s what I would be doing. It gives me latitude of time, I work with my time. I was making more.”

“You can't come to Nigeria to contest elections without money. That became my financial base. And I'm into other businesses. Above all, I’m a clergy. Rev Father Moore helped me, yes I didn't end up becoming a priest, but today I'm a priest because I propagate the gospel.  I run the Mercy Chapel International Ministry. I devote more of my time to God.  I'm still a clergyman.”

His interest in politics wasn’t a spur-of-the-moment drive. It was a long deliberate and divinely inspired reason to better lives and change the polity for good. He backed it up with Proverbs 29 verse 2 - when the righteous is on the throne the people rejoice. . The reason we are suffering in Nigeria is bad leadership. Then I saw came across proverbs 14: 35. Thereafter, he met a renowned philanthropist, a close friend of Bill Gates, who along with Gates go Uganda and run different kinds of programmes.

“When we started talking, when he learnt that I‘m from Nigeria this was the time the image of Nigeria was badly damaged because of the 419ners and all that. I asked if he couldn’t come to Nigeria to do the same things, and he laughed. After he laughed that, they don’t have anything with Nigeria because of fraud and all that because they don’t know who to trust. But I said you know that we have been friends. He said no, your own is different. His organization works through the government and not with individuals.

So, the only way they could bring their support to Nigeria is through somebody in government who they can trust. And the lowest cadre to initiate that was to become a mayor of a city. Hon Ifedioranma came down to Nigeria and wanted to become the mayor of Lagos because he had most of his teenage years in Lagos. He was told the closest elective post to that in Nigeria was the local government chairman.

And if it happens that he wants to contest, he should go to his home state. He shuttled between the US and Nigeria for eight years. The election for local government chairman was never conducted, he won the primaries the number of times it was conducted.  Since the local government wasn’t forthcoming, he went for his constituency seat at the State House of Assembly.

On what he thinks Anambra State needs now, “I think that much should be done in revenue generation. There is so much wealth in this state but we are not tapping into the opportunity for revenue generation that abounds in this state. To be honest this state can run without any federal allocation comfortably with great developmental strides with what can be generated within. I would want some slight shift in change in policy in revenue generation.

“We need to grow our IGR to accelerate the growth and development of the state. If there is enough money in the hands of a trusted leader it will be plowed back into development and the place will be a different place. Anambarians are industrious people, we are wealthy individually but the infrastructure is what we need to put in place.”

Hon. Ifedioranma is not a perfectionist but believes in doing well. He detests lies and dishonesty. Philosophy about life is to look forward and not otherwise. He tells you that he has no regret in life, “no matter what I do that I don’t succeed now I won’t go back to regret it. I’m a positive person no matter what.” If Ifedioranma had the power to change one thing in Nigeria, it would be to change people’s perception of being patriotic to our nation, “Most of them are not patriotic because the leadership is not supportive of who you really are. For me until that mindset is changed things will remain the same.”

On why he doesn’t give publicity to his constituency project, “most of my impact in people’s lives are individuals and don’t put them on the pages of newspapers. For instance, I have 179 pupils, students, and undergraduates in my scholarship scheme. I’m a lover of education and make sure he invests in education. I spend a lot on scholarships, it runs into millions, and I won’t publish it. But that will not take away notable signature projects in the communities that comprise my constituency – renovation of schools, equipping of science laboratories, digging of boreholes, building new classrooms.”

He is married to Mercy Amaka Ifedioranma and blessed with adorable children David Chidera Clinton and Esther Angelia Chimamanda Ifedioranma. He admits that his attraction to his wife was her beauty, but later discovered her endearing humility, besides she compliments him in areas that he falls short of.