12 Benefits Of A Healthier Sex Life That Have Nothing To Do With The Obvious

 

Essentially, women have an emotional component that is different from that of men. Women thrive on intimate love relationships. They are softer and more emotional than the male folk by natural design. It is the desire of a wife to occupy the first place in her husband’s life. The most essential thing a wife needs from her husband’s emotional connection and intimacy. Daisy Oluwatobi writes:

 

However, some women can push this need to be loved and pampered by their husbands to the very extreme.

 

They become over-possessive and this has the ability to stifle the love between them and their husbands. An over-jealous wife is usually very suspicious. She would want an explanation for any move her husband makes just to be sure that there is no other woman hanging around the corner.

 

She always has imaginary rivals and often nurses the fears of losing her husband to some other women.

 

Every member of the opposite sex that the husband associates with, is a potential threat to her marriage. There is this case of a young wife in her early thirties who monitor her husband's every movement. She trailed her husband to his hotel room in Port Harcourt. They reside in Owerri town. The man had left earlier to attend a very important official meeting in the city of Port Harcourt. But his over-jealous wife couldn't trust him enough to be all by himself without another lady in the hotel. But she was disappointed to find out that her labour at spying was in vain.

 

If you have a very jealous wife, there are some things you need to do from time to time to have peace in your marriage.

 

1.  Realise the basic need that every woman has to be told again and again that they are loved. Women, in general, have a great need to be told things like “you are pretty, that was a good meal, you look very good in that dress, the hairstyle suits you…” women really love to be complimented more if she is in an over-jealous wife. Even if you are to flatter her, she may not mind that than for you not to compliment her. But do not flatter. Sincerely pay her compliments. It means so much to her.

 

2. Do not pay repeated or too many compliments to any other woman whether in her presence or absence. An over-jealous wife will always misinterpret such compliments to other women or any other person for that matter and this is capable of putting your marriage in a bad light.

 

3.  Show off with her when you are in the company of friends. Introduce her to your friends or associates if they are meeting her for the first time in a special way and speak highly of her to them.

4. If your over-jealous wife becomes suspicious about your association with a colleague at work or any other female, try in a very gentle way to convince her that there is no secret affair between you and the woman. But if you do not succeed in persuading her, you will have to redefine your relationship with that person even if it means cutting it off entirely so as to have peace in your home. Friends and associates can come and exit your life from time to time. But your wife is and should be your best and permanent friend. You can't afford to lose her. She is a part and parcel of your life and destiny. Any other relationship can afford to give way for hers to be nurtured.

 

5. Whenever you are with your over-jealous wife, do your marriage a favour by not stirring at any other woman no matter how well-dressed she may be. Your wife will certainly catch you if you are stealing glances at another woman while she is in your company and that can lead to a "world war" because she would certainly demand an explanation from you for committing "lookery'". Be careful. Give her your full attention whenever you are together, especially at public functions.

 

6. Living with an overtly jealous wife is like walking a tightrope. You will have a wonderful marriage if you abide by the set rules. Often more than not, overtly jealous wives score excellent points in other aspects of their relationship with their husbands, just that they are possessive to a fault. So as the husband of such a woman, appreciate her the way she is and also put her in the intensive care unit of your heart.

 

Give her an overdose of tender loving care (TLC) on a daily basis. This will be a very powerful antidote. She may gradually and over a long period of time learn to accept that she is not in any form of competition over your love. You have always been there for her and will always be hers.